Masato wrote:I was a big 'Married With Children' fan though, I must admit lol
- Great show.
They don't do shows like that anymore.
Masato wrote:I was a big 'Married With Children' fan though, I must admit lol
Masato wrote:^^ LOL, not sure if you're helping your argument with that one, dish soap in the gravy? wtf
Seriously, IMHO, the strongest nuclear/traditional family is one where the woman/wife/mom is chosen wisely and respected, and the men teach their kids to 'listen to your mother'. This (perhaps exaggerated) picture you paint where wives are best seen and not heard and take a back seat to the husband I don't think creates quite as strong a family/society/kids. Wives get resentful or mistreated, & the inevitable conflict scars the kids. Better I always say to find a woman who you know is just a bit smarter than you are, and trust the shit out of her for lotsa things because we know damn well that men left entirely to their own devices will eventually end up in some disaster, lol The best partnerships acknowledge the differences and allow each to perform them well, as they fit nicely together to make a whole package.
Or maybe that's just me because I often think my wife saved me from total vagrancy, lol
I agree 100% that the State is trying to destroy this though. Can you think of a TV show in the past decade that shows a strong nuclear family? Maybe I'm wrong, I haven't really watched any TV in a decade. Wonder why lol
Canuckster wrote:What's ironic is how cucked ed O'Neil is in his new show.
Masato wrote:I made a thread in the Super Dojo about this but then took it down cuz it fits better here for this discussion.
My 9-year old son has agreed to compete again (his 4th tournament) in BJJ. I promised him I would never push him to compete, that the choice is always his, but this time his whole club/kids team is going, they are all competing and the coach is giving belt gradings after. Coach says he is ready so I kind of nudged him to go. He agreed.
I'm trying not to be nervous but its hard lol
Mostly I don't want him to get hurt. These kids tournaments can get a little rough. He is pretty tough but still has not outgrown the instinct to bring the tears when he takes a big bump. This is hard for me as a dad, I hate seeing him get hurt even little things
Secondly I hope he can find the mindset to enjoy it, no matter if he does well or not. Last time he thought he was gonna cruise for 1st place, but got surprised by the last opponent and took home silver. As good of a sport as he is this bummed him out pretty hard last time and I don't want him to feel that disappointment again
Thirdly I get confused how to coach/support him psychologically. I don't like competition myself, I'm very polarized usually I don't give a fuck at all about winning or losing, but other times I shoot for excellence and get out of my way. I'm trying to help my son find a more healthy balance but not sure where to settle on the scale. He's doing a pretty good job on his own, sometimes I think I'll just let him find his own way. I want to teach him to try his best and go for the W but at the same time not go too crazy over it and just have fun. This seems like kind of a paradox, its like I'm giving mixed messages lol
Fourthly I anticipate I'll have tons of work that weekend and will have to come back from the tournament with an all-nighter ahead of me
Oh, also he is going with his whole club/team, many of which are serious competitors and compete/train way more than my boy. He's going with some killers, wondering if that will inspire him or put too much pressure on him to be as good.
Obviously, I'm overthinking everything lol... he seems cool about it way more than me
Just needed to vent about it, I'll have this on my mind all week
Thoughts are most welcome
Masato wrote:His first tournament he got absolutely thumped, lost all his matches. Big lesson learned.
2nd tournament he destroyed everyone and won gold, to his absolute surprise lol. Another lesson.
3rd tournament it looked like he was gonna cruise for gold again, then got surprised in the last match by a kid who was simply working way harder and had tougher matches. My son took silver, but was hard on himself about blowing the last fight. Another lesson learned.
...I would say those are 3 pretty good lessons for 3 experiences. What would be a good experience now ya think?
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