Shinkicker wrote:Vutulaki wrote:
Is your mom overbearing with the kids or something? why the change after they came along?
No. But there were a few issues with that. I'm a firm believer in allowing and accepting people for who they are. You can be the biggest asshole ever and I will still put forth the effort to be pleasant to you. I don't like confrontation and will work to avoid it. Except when it comes to my kids. I established early that what I say goes with my kids. I have very few rules but I let it be known they are nonnegotiable. For example, She had a problem with me not allowing her to take my kids camping on the river when they were younger. But she was drinking daily. Fuck that. She never complained to me, just to everyone else in the family. Of course she didn't mention the drinking part.
The change? Who knows. I think because she left when I was 11 and didn't come back into my life until I was 19. Which I was very understanding of until I had kids. I couldn't help but be baffled at how a mother could do that.
So something that happened way back when. That's really unfair because she isn't the same person now. But I can't seem to force myself to "feel" about her the way I used to.
I'll keep faking it though.
Only a total piece of shit would abandon their 11 year old kid then return years later with some sense of entitlement when it comes to their grandkids. Id be so fucking embarrassed that I would be a 100% backseat grandparent offering to help where I can and am asked but thats it. You want a lollie? ask your mom/dad first. that kinda thing.
People are fucked in the head, hopefully your mom turns to the bottle again and leaves you alone. No one deserves that shit.