What resonated most was Vutu's bit about the obsessive kids burning out and hating it later. I was thinking the same, those kids are on a rush now but that's a tough pace to keep up. The one Dad I think gets his own rush from seeing his kid and quite obviously the kid wins his favor by training hard and winning golds. That shit can't last, man. Like a CD you listen to obsessively for a time in your life, now you can't stand to hear it cause you over-did it lol
I would like most for him to have jiu-jitsu as a long-term lifestyle... You're totally right, he's got like 40 years left to train and compete. I think I will continue the plan; let him train a couple times a week, and he can choose to compete as he desires. If he wants to go hardcore for a time I'll let him, if he doesn't compete again until he's 21 that's fine too.
As for the wife, she was calmer than me, lol. She wasn't there at the event though, she says she's scared she might go all Shinkicker out there is a boy is hurting him too badly, lol
As for the topic of his training and competing, she has a saying she repeats often about lots of things in life; "Too much of anything is too much".
She did make 1 point that I thought was interesting; I kept telling him that he should just do his very best, and whatever happens happens (win/lose etc). She said that if you're gonna compete, you should go to win. It's OK if you lose, but you should go to win. And if you're not primed to win (haven't been training enough) you should know it/be realistic about where you stand. She said if you go thinking I might win I might lose, then that's what's gonna happen, etc. She might be right. I have never been competitive much at all in my life but can relate to this attitude about other things. She is like this, she sets her target and usually makes it happen.
Thanks for the input, my head was swimming for a few days, but I think it's clear now. Gonna talk to the coach tonight, I have a class myself to do. Will be fun, I missed all last week. I wonder if I'll compete myself one day... I only did once a long time ago, I won 1st place but hated it lol. I'm in the seniors division now ha ha but I think if I go people will harass me because I don't look as old as I am, they won't believe me and boo me for beating up old men
