What is the Forum Consensus concerning the keeping of a Mistress?

[theraskal]

it is my observation that the PORN industry is malignant to society, along with prostitution, and that in a more right-minded society Gentlemen of more Respectable Character would maintain a mistress or two in the event his partner was frigid and/or ignoring his other needs in companionship and/or simply expected him to do so to satisfy her feminine nature to enjoy the threat of competition and to know that her man is a desired commodity.

now I am not suggesting excessive LOWrent promiscuity, I'm talking about respectable adult romantic relationships.

[theraskal]

my own GF makes a TOP SHELF Bento and does a CAPITAL job of managing the finances and my allowance but she's just not a romantic and I am.....but she also admits to the fact that she prefers I have more than one GF because she can't do everything for me and has stated that she finds herself more attracted to me when she knows that other women also enjoy my good company

it's an odd thing because I told her I would not like it at all if she had man-friend relations and I don't understand how she thinks the way she does, but she is a woman, so I don't try to understand it and instead I simply endeavor to do what satisfies her feminine hysteria in order to maintain my Bento situation!

[Som-Pong]

It's the status quo in most of the world.

[Masato]

my own GF makes a TOP SHELF Bento and does a CAPITAL job of managing the finances and my allowance but she's just not a romantic and I am.....but she also admits to the fact that she prefers I have more than one GF because she can't do everything for me and has stated that she finds herself more attracted to me when she knows that other women also enjoy my good company

it's an odd thing because I told her I would not like it at all if she had man-friend relations and I don't understand how she thinks the way she does, but she is a woman, so I don't try to understand it and instead I simply endeavor to do what satisfies her feminine hysteria in order to maintain my Bento situation!

This is fascinating I don't think I've ever heard such a situation. Sounds like you found a perfect fit

In my limited experience, I always assumed that infidelity would usually bring inevitable downfall to relationships. That's just perhaps a Canadian perspective of my generation, I find relationship etiquette and patterns in other cultures to be fascinating and alien/baffling to me. I was very curious about this when I travelled through Islamic countries, what are the norms, do they work, and are most people happy/cool with it? From a western perspective it seems so shocking and abusive but there were glimpses where I would watch the people and think maybe it works, I saw many happy families everywhere.

I suppose there are infinite different combinations and arrangements possible for different people. I think you are on the right track for you and your GF to be honest with yourselves who you are and what you need and what works best. If you can find a match that is gold, whatever one's desires. We are all so different

I have been married 25 years. If the Mrs ever were to discover me with a mistress she would leave me instantly lol. I know this.
Porn is as close as I would dare get to a mistress, if I don't want to destroy my family
My personal view is that a real mistress IRL is way more harmful to a relationship/disrespectful to a partner than resorting to porn if they need to let one out.

I never heard good Bento as a high relationship priority lol

[theraskal]

the Mexican GF I dated before current GF was the same way. Later I had heard explained that Mexican women are not satisfied with a man who isn't a bit of a Casanova and will observe him to be of undesirable quality. I think this explains my social observations of weekend excursions to the GoodWill store to do some bookbrowsing and where I never fail to observe some young Latino Chap with a pretty tart hanging off his arm, meanwhile I observe the "MGTOW" seniors driving corvettes moaning about women

it is my conclusion that repeating the daily TUCKER CARLSON rant doesn't "woo" the strumpets and they wish to be romanced, not told how terrible things are by some complaining FAUX CONservative Karen

[theraskal]

....on a side note, I remain in contact and good relations with the ExMex GF and she told me "I only have myself to blame" for having lost me

[theraskal]

I would also like to explain my own evolution concerning PORN

one day a Japanese Jehova woman came knocking on the door. Although I find their opposition to holiday merry making disagreeable I do believe them to be a generally clean living people and thought such a friendship would be a good influence on the GF to keep her in line and my bento situation secure and so I encouraged the friendship and told the GF to visit with that woman

so then after some time of visiting with that woman the GF started to take a superior position in our daily disputes and would act like God is on her side. I then observed how during the weekly lessons that they always took a feminine biblical perspective and so to balance that and defend my own position I began my own study via book-reading and youtube watching to educate myself

during this time I observed the rise of the Militant LGBTQ faction. Before I was GAY neutral but I also observe the POWER of media influence as how even though the GF was engaged in getting the weekly moral manipulation from the Jehova woman it was not as effective as the LGBTQ media influence

so in my own daily study and devotion I began to evolve in my thinking and after some HONEST contemplation and reflection I came to the conclusion that acceptance of and indulging in PORNwatching is not a progressive moral evolution and I could not truly call myself a REAL CONSERVATIVE if I engaged in such DEVILRY and so I had to WALK the TALK, especially as people care more about what one does than what he says in taking a position.

this lead to some heated discourse between me and the GF where when I would not accept the Militant LGBTQ PORN agenda that the GF told me I need help and said I need to see a therapist and I told her ok, I can make an appointment with a Catholic Priest and she can tell him how WRONG I am for Abstaining from PORNwatching and thinking it's WRONG to teach kids in the educational system that PORNwatching is good sexual hygiene and how we should promote acceptance of LGBTQ. I'm not suggesting oppression or HATE either, but I do not think LGBTQ should be "promoted".

so that is how all that came to be.

[Masato]

I would also like to explain my own evolution concerning PORN

one day a Japanese Jehova woman came knocking on the door. Although I find their opposition to holiday merry making disagreeable I do believe them to be a generally clean living people and thought such a friendship would be a good influence on the GF to keep her in line and my bento situation secure and so I encouraged the friendship and told the GF to visit with that woman

so then after some time of visiting with that woman the GF started to take a superior position in our daily disputes and would act like God is on her side. I then observed how during the weekly lessons that they always took a feminine biblical perspective and so to balance that and defend my own position I began my own study via book-reading and youtube watching to educate myself

during this time I observed the rise of the Militant LGBTQ faction. Before I was GAY neutral but I also observe the POWER of media influence as how even though the GF was engaged in getting the weekly moral manipulation from the Jehova woman it was not as effective as the LGBTQ media influence

so in my own daily study and devotion I began to evolve in my thinking and after some HONEST contemplation and reflection I came to the conclusion that acceptance of and indulging in PORNwatching is not a progressive moral evolution and I could not truly call myself a REAL CONSERVATIVE if I engaged in such DEVILRY and so I had to WALK the TALK, especially as people care more about what one does than what he says in taking a position.

this lead to some heated discourse between me and the GF where when I would not accept the Militant LGBTQ PORN agenda that the GF told me I need help and said I need to see a therapist and I told her ok, I can make an appointment with a Catholic Priest and she can tell him how WRONG I am for Abstaining from PORNwatching and thinking it's WRONG to teach kids in the educational system that PORNwatching is good sexual hygiene and how we should promote acceptance of LGBTQ. I'm not suggesting oppression or HATE either, but I do not think LGBTQ should be "promoted".

so that is how all that came to be.

"...and my bento situation secure" LOL

Interesting story.
Your GF became a Jehovah's Witness? Is she still?

I think falling into sexual perversion/obsession/addiction is all kind of the same whether it's porn vs a mistress, straight or LGBT, makes little difference it all does the same thing to people. The goal IMO is to attempt to get that part of us under a reasonable control, to not feed it too much nor become perverted or overly sex-crazed in any direction. This is one aspect about the idea of a healthy marriage that I think is beneficial imo, it gives a man a meaningful motivation to try to tame that part of himself, to keep it as honest and simple as possible not just for himself but for the sake of his wife and kids too. We may never tame that part of us completely but if we don't do our best and believe there is good reason to do this, I think we can turn into beasts.

Connecting porn to the LGBTQ+++ agenda is an interesting idea.
Lately porn sites seem to be full of INCEST titles, this makes no sense to me and I wonder often if the industry indeed is not JUST for money and lust, but perhaps in part intended and managed to completely demoralize and pervert humans on a mass scale.
Seriously, who is actually interested in incest porn? Yet its everywhere

[theraskal]

no, she's not a JW, I just encouraged the friendship and weekly lessons as a clever manipulation as I thought it would be good moral training for her but instead she tried to use her skewed feminine bias learned lessons against me in our disputes in her own maniacal manipulation!

I have to be a little more transparent in my GF assocations here to be clear. I know some OGs are lurking and don't wish to spill all my beans because I get a good chuckle from triggering the obviously envious HATERS but I'm rather puritan and a good boy and there is heavy emphasis on the FRIEND part concerning my girlFRIENDS other than the one which makes my bentos and with whom I am committed to monogamy.

when I think about PORN I imagine all the pain associated with that industry and I can only see sadness. Those who end up in that industry because we as society failed them and they fell through the cracks......or those that selfishly involve themselves without concern for the pain it would cause to family....I just see the DEVIL'S HANDS at work...a lot of pain and sadness....and so I just felt I could no longer tell myself that it's natural or "boys will be boys" that kind of thing....so too is ANGER natural yet one must maintain a kind of civilized discipline or else he will find himself in PRISON for not controlling himself of his anger

there's an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other and too many people are ignoring the angel and listening to the DEVIL when it comes to PORN

and yes I struggle with lust, just as I struggle with anger, envy, and all the other things that we humans can suffer but over time, through daily devotion and discipline, I am becoming better at managing those emotions and becoming a more civilized fellow

[Masato]

good posts

keep going bro. we must all do our best